How To Female Ejaculate
- First, take time to get yourself
aroused. Enjoy self-pleasuring or pleasuring with your partner, as you normally would, with whatever
stimulates you - watching erotica may be especially arousing for you,
especially if you can find videos featuring female ejaculation.
- Take out that well-loved lingerie, or
just engage with your favorite fantasy. And see if you can have an orgasm
before you try to find your G spot, because this will make finding it much
- The best way to explore your G spot is to tease
yourself to a high level of sexual arousal. When you're aroused, your
G spot will be engorged with blood and feel smooth to the touch. Let your fingers explore your vagina.
- Use plenty of lube and feel all around
the smooth walls of the vaginal barrel. Touch your cervix if you can
reach it; if this experience is new to you, explore the different areas
slowly and sensuously. Press your finger tips against the walls of your
vagina and explore the texture of the various areas.
- Next, press your finger or fingers on the front
wall of your vagina - in other words, the side nearest your belly button.
Only a short distance inside - perhaps one or two inches - the surface of
the vaginal wall will feel rather ridged and rough when compared to the
remainder of the vaginal tissue (unless you're highly aroused already - in
which case it may feel swollen and smooth).
- In any case, this area will feel
different somehow to the rest of your vagina when you press on it. Press
against that tissue and see how it feels. It might not enjoy it so much.
It might feel insensitive or rather uncomfortable. It might make you think
you need to urinate.....and, of course, it might feel very good indeed!
- Press harder, and see if you can feel
your pubic bone. Hook your finger into the shape of a crook, as though you
were beckoning someone towards you, and press there...see how that
feels.... and, guess what?
- Congratulations, you just just found your
- The rough and ridged area that becomes
smooth and engorged as you become sexually aroused, located on the front
wall of your vagina is your G spot, also known as the female prostate
gland or the urethral sponge. Think of it as a whole area, not just a
small spot, and you'll be nearer the mark.
- Now, try using a sex toy. Though
fingers are great G-spot stimulators, a lot of women find that it's easier
to touch their own G-spot with a sex toy, and they certainly can provide
strong, firm stimulation. Any dildo or vibrator with a distinct curve is a
very good G-spot option.
- You could try the Orchid G and the Candy Colored
Glass Dildo from Babeland...and many
others. Experiment with various ways of stimulating your G-spot, and find
the method that feels right for you.
Choose the best way to
make love - that is, the sexual positions most likely to give you an orgasm.
Let The Ejaculate Flow!
- Some women will find that they have the
ability to ejaculate easily when their G-spot is stimulated. But for most
women, there are a few more steps involved in gaining the ability.....
- 1 Start by emptying your bladder. You
don't want a fear that you are going to ejaculate urine to inhibit your
responses......obviously, when the bladder is empty, there's no worry
about peeing in bed. If youíre sexually aroused, stimulate your G-spot,
until you feel a sensation similar to the need to urinate, but then
continue stimulating yourself as you relax your PC muscles. You'll
- Make a mess and maximize enjoyment!
Easy said, but for a lot of women, the fear of letting go and urinating -
even though this is not, repeat not, urine - is so ingrained that it takes
a bit of time and effort to get over it. We'd suggest that when you are
enjoying this experience in bed, you place a towel or two under your butt.
- If you're still terrified of peeing, go
into the bathroom, place a few towels on the floor or use the bath or
shower tub. If you pee, so what? Trust yourself, relax, agree with
yourself before you start that it just doesn't matter.
- After that self-stimulation, you felt
great, yes? Now, if you get over that fear of peeing, you can relax,
ejaculate, give yourself a real sexual high - believe us, this experience
is worth it. And though some women do have massive ejaculations, most only
shoot out a teaspoon or two, so it's a thrill rather than a spill!
- Now, you also need to decide that
you'll make a conscious effort to bring about the ejaculation. So:
stimulate your G-spot, relaxing your PC muscles, and enjoy that expectant
"something is going to happen" feeling........and if nothing's coming out,
push out with your pubococcygeus muscles. In this way, you'll probably
push out the ejaculate. And - excitingly - you'll squirt or sprinkle it
out rather than have a "gush".
- Last of all, try adding clitoral
stimulation. While G-spot stimulation feels great, adding clitoral
stimulation, via a tongue (someone else's!), a hand or fingers, or a
vibrator can take you right over the top. Try combining a vibrator on your clitoris and vulva and a G Spot
curved dildo in your vagina if you're on your own, and see whether that
works better for you.
If you're with a partner, make sure he has
sufficient skills in lovemaking to keep going - i.e. thrusting into you -
for as long as it takes for you to reach orgasm, or if he can't do
this, find him some premature ejaculation
treatment that works instead!
And finally, suppose that after all this
exploration, you decide you donít like G-spot stimulation or you haven't
Well, you have lots of new information
about your body and what you like during sexual arousal. And it's worth
trying your G-spot occasionally since sensitivity changes during your
monthly cycle, or as your sexual experience changes. Don't miss the
chance of having your own splashy fun!
Female Ejaculation and The G Spot
When a woman enjoys female ejaculation, a
clear watery fluid similar in composition to male prostatic fluid squirts
with some force out of her urethra.
While some women ejaculate simultaneously
with their orgasm, others discover that orgasm and ejaculation are two
separate and distinct aspects of their sexual arousal.
In both cases G-spot stimulation is absolutely essential before
ejaculation will occur - this is because G spot stimulation encourages
production of ejaculatory fluid by the Skene's or paraurethral glands.
Lots of men and women alike are skeptical
about the possibility of female ejaculation and some women even doubt the
very existence of the G-spot!
If you need undeniable proof that both of
these phenomena - the G-spot and female ejaculation - are undoubtedly
real, get hold of Deborah Sundahl's
video and book - both called Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.
It features a scene in which you can
really see the famed G-spot. And, what's more, during the course of this
rather amazing film, you will see several women genuinely ejaculating.
Itís a movie that probably will change your sex life for ever - and
improve it beyond your wildest dreams!
Some women find that ejaculation comes
naturally: many more women somehow taught themselves to stop themselves
ejaculating because they believed that their ejaculate was
If you're one of these women, just relax - put down some
towels, get your lover on board and get started. Show him the film by Deborah Sundahl and
he'll be keen for you to start, because bringing a woman to orgasm is a
big thrill for a man, and helping her to female ejaculate will arouse him
The liquid thrill can spill, for sure,
but it's easily dealt with - you just need to be relaxed about it.
On the other hand, if you've never enjoyed the experience of female
ejaculation, you can teach yourself (with the help of of a partner) by
following these simple steps.
Pelvic muscles play a major part in whether you can ejaculate or not. If
youíve never tried to do Kegel exercises,
check out this
website. If you wish to ejaculate, first of all, get your PC muscles
in trim. itís really important to learn to relax your PC (pubococcygeus)
muscles as well as being able to contract them.
Relaxing - also known as
"pushing out" - your PC muscles will permit the flow of ejaculatory fluid
from the urethra.
Try to get familiar with your PC muscles and work out if
they tend to be relaxed or tight. If they are tense, you have to learn to
relax the whole of your pelvic floor by doing Kegel exercises.
Happily, you can begin practicing
Second, another crucial element of female
ejaculation is having your G-spot stimulated. First of all, finding your
G-spot is relatively easy! If you enjoy vaginal penetration, the major
part of that good feeling is most likely a G-spot sensation.
Finding your G-spot is more about
discovering the subtleties of your own body than a quest for some magic
"button" you've never seen or felt before. Here's how to go about it....
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