The
Female Orgasm Explored
How Often Women Reach
Orgasm - And What They Think About It!
In 2006 we conducted a survey into the female
orgasm on the Internet, to which we received over 500 replies.
These are the questions that we asked the women in our survey. The answers
are given below (where the answers were narrative answers we have chosen a
selection of typical responses).
Unfortunately we did not investigate how
sexual responses change with age before, during and after the menopause
- but we'll look at sexual changes after fifty
in the next survey.
1 How do you feel about your body? Please name any part with which you are
uncomfortable and why.
2 Are you happy with the appearance of your vulva?
3 What do you think about the scent of this part of your body?
4 What do you think about the taste of the secretions from this part of
your body?
5 Would you like to tell us what you think about your vulva?
6 Are you in a relationship with a sexual partner at the moment?
7 How often do you achieve self pleasure through masturbation? (That means
any sexual stimulation to your vulva, clitoris or vagina except for sexual
intercourse.)
8 How often do you achieve an orgasm when you masturbate?
9 When you masturbate by stimulating your clitoris, do you also insert any
object into your vagina?
10 What is your main method of masturbation, including anything that your
partner does to stimulate you (except for sexual intercourse).
11 How often do you have sexual intercourse? (That is penetrative sex with
your partner's penis or penetrative sex with a same-sex partner).
12 Are you able to reach
orgasm during sex or intercourse, without additional clitoral stimulation, either from yourself or your partner?
13 Do you reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse with additional
stimulation of the clitoris?
14 What sexual position do you favor most during intercourse?
15 Do you agree with the statement that there are both clitoral and vaginal
orgasms and they are different?
16 How would you describe the difference if you answered yes to question
15?
17 What degree of sexual pleasure do you receive from the following
activities?
18 Do you achieve simultaneous orgasm with your partner during sexual
intercourse?
19 Have you ever faked an orgasm and if so what were the reasons for doing
so?
20 You enjoy multiple orgasms during any kind of sexual stimulation?
21 And if you answered yes to question 20, how many orgasms do usually
have in one session?
22 How often do you find yourself unable to achieve climax even though you
are highly aroused?#
23 Have you ever attempted anal sex?
24 How many partners have you had during the time you have been sexually
active ?
25 If you regard yourself as heterosexual or straight, have you ever had a
same sex sexual experience?
26 What are your most and least favorite aspects of sex?
27 Do you have a
fantasy about an ideal sexual experience?
28 Do you have any other comments?
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1 How
do you feel about your body? Please name any part with which you are
uncomfortable and why. |
Percent |
| I'm satisfied or very satisfied with the appearance of my
body |
52 |
| My labia are too big |
2 |
| My labia are too small |
2 |
| My labia are different sizes |
2 |
| My breasts are not large enough |
9 |
| My breasts are too large |
1 |
| My breasts are different sizes or shapes |
1 |
| My breasts sag too much |
2 |
|
My belly is not smooth enough |
10 |
| My butt is too big or it droops too much |
3 |
| I'm overweight |
11 |
|
I'm not tall enough |
1 |
|
I do
not like my nose |
2 |
| I dislike all of my body
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2 |
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2 Are you happy with the appearance
of your vulva? |
Percent |
| I think it's beautiful |
45 |
|
It depends, sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not |
36 |
| It's OK |
13 |
| I hate it!
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6 |
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3 What do you think about the scent
of this part of your body? |
Percent |
|
Beautiful |
36 |
|
Perfectly OK |
39 |
|
It varies, sometimes it's OK, other times it's
not |
20 |
|
Not good |
2.5 |
| Disgusting
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2.5 |
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4 What do you think about the taste
of the secretions from this part of your body? |
Percent |
|
Delicious |
30 |
|
Great |
31 |
|
I'm not fussed either way |
16 |
|
Not nice |
5 |
|
Sometimes OK |
8 |
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10 |
| 5 Would you like to tell us what you think about your vulva? |
| I think a shaved
vagina all over is horrid. I trim and
shave the sides, but not all of it...why would any woman be influenced by
standards set by porn? I also think the "little girl" look demeans women. |
|
My cunt is pretty and pink. My labia are
neither too big nor too small, but just right and I'm moderately hairy.... I
shave/trim just a little but I generally like it to look natural. I worry
more about how my clitoris is sized - only average and I think it's too
small compared to other women's. It would be great if it were a bit bigger.
It works well, though, because my orgasms (clitoral and vaginal) come
EASILY (like I do)! Sometimes I even have to pause and wait a while before I
orgasm so that our lovemaking lasts longer.....usually the guy has to do
this! My boyfriend - yes, plural - love all of my vagina. They love it
clearly for what it is and what it does for them.... but they also think
it's very pretty. One said it looked like a vagina "supermodel". I'm pretty
nice to my vagina. It enjoys a lot of sex (very good sex!). It might resent
me one day if I have to give birth but hopefully it will forget and forgive
me. |
| It is very beautiful, when opened out like a flower , it is pink, and gets very moist
quickly. When fingered by a lover properly, it emits a sweet tasteful fluid. |
| Sexy and very neatly shaped. |
| It's my flower - my garden of love. |
| It turns me on and I get very sexy when I look at it and play
with it. |
| I like and love it. |
| I'm fond of it... I've had loads of sexy fun with it, after
all! The delicate taste and the sweet smell turn me on a lot - it tastes
like a sense of
sweet-and-sour sauce, but milder. It also turns deep colors - mostly purple and rose
- when I'm
feeling horny. :) |
| I love my cunt, my vagina. |
| I think it is the most beautiful. |
| I love my very own pussy and its power over men. |
| I love it. |
| It's gorgeous. |
| I like to play with and touch it. |
| I love its softness and unique appearance in the mirror. I love
to touch it!! |
| I love it because I know it is the only one like it. |
| It's very beautiful and all my lovers agree. |
| I love that I have my labia come out, not go in - I want the
world to see and admire them. |
| It is the center of the my and my lovers' universe...it gives life,
it gives joy and of course sometimes
pain (the curse of women)....it draws massed hordes of men with upright
rods wanting to take me, and sometimes women are drawn to me as well by its
beauty...it gives me sexual power
and so most of the time I'm happy with it... but I admit sometimes life
would be easier without it because it sometimes aches for fulfillment. |
| It's awesome! |
| It's only just ok. |
| I think it's ugly. Very ugly. How could anyone ever like it? |
| It's beautiful and mysterious, especially for men. |
| I love to play with the wet lovely lips, so moist and
slippery and tantalizingly close to my secret cave...that's the power of
cunt.... |
| I think my vulva excites all who see it - it's just the right
size and feels wonderful when touched by a lover. |
| I love my vulva, thank heavens. I think it's great and best
of all, so far I've had not a single
complaint! |
| The greatest thing I have. |
| I love it, this precious my vulva. |
| I look at my vagina in the mirror and I am so happy it's such
a good size - I also like the feel of it when I
masturbate because it is so silky smooth. |
| It's natural, hairy, scented and sexy. |
| It's great. I mean I feel comfortable with it, as liking it is a part of liking myself
and my sexuality. |
| I often play with my gorgeous vulva, and I always enjoy the sensations
it produces even if orgasm is far away. I just like to feel it in between my
fingers, especially the wetness of it. My male partner says it's beautiful,
tells me how good it tastes, and my female sex partner comments on it all
the time, telling me how much she loves it too. |
| I think it's very beautiful. In fact, I think every vulva
that ever existed is a wondrous garden of fertility, every one different, every one
truly amazing. |
| Yes, it feels good when I stroke it but I think my vulva
looks very ugly. |
| My vulva defines my femininity.....happily it's a close
friend who I have come to know quite intimately. I do enjoy the time I spend with it more than the time
I spend with men, because men can't get me to orgasm like I can...they
simply don't know how
to work it. |
| It's as unique as an individual's fingerprint. |
| I explore my labia, clitoris, vulva and vagina, I finger myself to
create wetness then I taste it - divine! Then I masturbate and what's more
I love doing it, because my orgasms are more
intense than any I ever had with man OR woman. I love my vulva - and I
love to look at
vulvas and vaginas of other women. There should be a group to celebrate
our womanhood, for us to compare and talk about how we look. I am
very open when I discuss mine, but I know most women find it difficult. |
| Not so happy with it's performance for one week of every month, other than
that I'm very happy - I especially love it when I'm sexually aroused and my labia are
red and swollen
and my clitoris is erect and standing at
attention. |
| I suppose it's sexy and very cute, but then it's hardly been used
for anything so far! |
| It is nice and large, with floppy labia that are just altogether sexy. |
| My vulva is my best friend, can you believe? Everyday I give it some
extra special
attention. My boyfriends all appear to love it and I too think it is very beautiful.
Especially when it is smoothly shaven. ;) |
| It's really wet and running with juice, so I love to finger myself and lick
the juice after...it turns me on soooo much...and also makes me reach my
orgasm much quicker! |
|
It is something to be enjoyed by a penis but nothing
more than
that. |
| My vulva is simply a work of art, and it's so much more interesting than
a man's genitals. |
| I like it, and my boyfriend seems to love it. |
| It's mine, it's part of what makes me a feminine woman along with
breasts and body, and I love it and my partner loves it too - in fact, he
says it's the nicest flower he's ever seen! |
| Small and neat, I think it's a tight little treat. Small and neat, my
man
loves to eat me! It's flavor's so sweet, it can't be beat. |
| Beautiful, voluptuous, feminine, sweet. |
| It is so soft and gently pliable. I enjoy fingering it and
spreading out the lips sp easily. |
| It's soft, red, lovely. |
| The most beautiful flower I ever beheld. |
| It's
sexy. |
| Just
beautiful. |
| Great! |
| I like it very much. As do my lovers. |
| It's
cool. |
| I like how my vulva lets me get so much pleasure in so may
ways. I simply love having a clitoris because I can have as many orgasms
as I want in basically a single
session with my wonderful vibrator. I love having a miniature "foreskin"
over my clitoris and being able to slide it back to reveal the wonderfully
smooth pearl that lies
beneath! |
| I really love the whole of my wonderful vagina. I enjoy
having sex when ever I can get
it. |
| I think my vulva is just beautiful. I have seen several other women's and I
honestly think mine is prettier and sexier. |
| I've known (and explored) my vulva since I was 8. I love it. |
| I think it is a totally unique part of my body, and one that not
many people can appreciate or understand well, probably since it differs
so much from woman to woman.
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| It's great. |
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6 Are you in a relationship with a sexual partner at the moment? |
Percent |
| Yes |
60 |
| Maybe |
11 |
| No
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29 |
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7 How often do you achieve orgasm through
self-pleasuring or masturbation? (That means
any sexual stimulation to your vulva, clitoris or vagina except for sexual
intercourse.) |
Percent |
| Less than once a month |
13 |
| 1 - 2 |
5 |
| 3 - 5 |
10 |
| 6 - 10 |
14 |
| 11 - 19 |
19 |
| 20 or more
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39 |
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8 How often do you achieve an orgasm when you masturbate? |
Percent |
| Never |
7 |
| 1 time in 4 or so |
12 |
| 2 or 3 times in 4 or so |
26 |
| 4 times out of 4 |
50 |
| I don't know what an orgasm is!
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5 |
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9 When you masturbate by stimulating your clitoris, do you also insert any
object into your vagina? |
| |
Never |
From time to time |
When I
feel like it |
Often |
Always |
|
|
10% |
20% |
20% |
25% |
25% |
|
|
12% |
18% |
17% |
25% |
28% |
|
|
32% |
15% |
17% |
20% |
16% |
| A household
object - like a cucumber, maybe | |
45% |
15% |
15% |
8% |
17% |
| Yes, I like that
sense of being penetrated and filled up when I reach climax
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15% |
15% |
20% |
15% |
35% |
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10 What is your main method of
masturbation, including anything that your partner does to stimulate you
(except for sexual intercourse)? |
| My boyfriend
licks me all over my vulva and flicks my clitoris with his tongue. |
| I use the shower
head to spray myself to orgasm in the bathtub! |
| I use circular
pattern to rub on my clitoris with my hand. |
| I use a single finger on my right hand,
while my boyfriend uses his tongue. |
| Clitoral
stimulation with a finger or using a shower massage. |
| Two fingers
deep in my vagina while I use another one to rub my clitoris. |
| My partner
nuzzles my vulva with his nose and sticks his tongue into my vagina as he
inhales my lovely aroma ...he then gently stimulates my clitoris with the
flat of his tongue, and he also strokes the clitoral shaft and nibbles it
until I ejaculate all over his face. |
| Clitoral
stimulation using my fingers. |
| I don't
personally especially like vibrators that are too strong, they make my clitoris
feel numb. But if I don't have a lover, I like using non-vibrating dildos
that feel like a penis. And I also like to rub my clitoris using my hand and
fingers, though this may sometimes be too much pressure, so I prefer something
softer like a rolled up pillow. |
| I start with some
oral sex given by my boyfriend, then he likes to put our favorite toy inside
my vagina or
he will put his penis in me - which he really loves! And he also likes to
continue to stimulate my clitoris until I reach
orgasm. |
| I move my fingers
rhythmically in & out of my vagina and at the same time I squeeze my legs
together this takes me to orgasm in no time! |
| I rub my clitoris
fast using the flat palm of my hand. |
| I use my
balled-up fist and/or my fingers, and sometimes I will use a vibrator. |
| Finger
stimulation of my clitoris. |
| Playing with my
clit in whatever way I want! |
| I usually use two
fingers and play with my clit until I come. |
| I usually lie
flat on
my back and then play with my vulva suing my right hand. Once I start feeling
aroused, I like to rub the shaft of my clitoris through the labia until I'm
near orgasm, then
I slow my movements down and use one of my dildos or a jelly vibrator to tease myself for a
while before I let myself come. |
| I have a huge
thick black dildo that I like to put inside my vagina, and fantasize about
a huge black man screwing me. |
| I mainly use my
fingers, lots of lube, and rub my clit. |
| I massage my clitoris
with the flat of my hand in
a circular motion. |
| I like to rub
my clitoris with my fingers and then insert a vibrator in my
vagina. |
| I have an
electric muscle massager...I pull open my
labia and expose my huge clit, then I place the massager on my clit. I may
even put the handle into my vagina as I use the electric vibrator...I love
feeling my orgasm when I have a big hard object in my
cunt. It's almost as good as reaching orgasm with my boyfriend's cock in
me. |
| He gets me
aroused and while he is licking me out he uses a vibrating dildo to penetrate me. I
fantasize that two men are making love to me at the same time. I always
come very quickly! |
| I usually use my finger to
masturbate myself. I might use a couple of fingers on the tip of my clitoris and
then I go faster or slower depending on how it feels but I usually come after about 10
to 15 minutes, after which I start again. |
| I don't like
doing it myself, somehow I need more practice, but when my boy does it, he
gives me
multiple orgasms. |
| I lick my fingers
to lube them and then I push the slowly into my vagina and I rub gently,
until I get myself wet, until I hear the "squelch" of my vaginal
wetness which tips me over into my orgasm. Sometimes I like to massage and
stroke my thighs and especially my nipples which arouses me quicker. |
| I lie on my back
using two pillows to keep my ass in the air, my hips are raised up which
means I can have better access to my cunt, and I use plenty of lube and rub my clit
as well....then, when I feel really horny I will slide the handle of my hairbrush
deep inside my vagina...I keep rubbing my clit till I come. |
| Water out of the
bath tub faucet. |
| My usual method is
to use my fingers to stimulate my clit, I pull apart my labia, while I
enjoy generally stroking/rubbing my vulva and clit. A finger pushed inside my
vagina rapidly brings me to climax. |
| I rub my clit in
circles using two fingers, then I finger myself, as deep as I can get,
while flicking the clit
itself. |
| I always come
easily on my own....
I spread my legs, wide apart, then I rub my clit with two fingers, at
first rather gently, while I put two fingers in my vagina and spread my
own wetness if I need it, but gradually getting faster. I like to pull the hood back
over my clit and also smack it sometimes
because the contrast between pain and pleasure I find very stimulating. When I
reach orgasm, I like to squeeze my
legs together and make the orgasm more intense. My individual hot
spot is located just to the left of my clit, and I'm left handed, so that
makes for a perfect match! Also, my right nipple is more sensitive than
the other one, so if I rub it while I stimulate my clit, I can come over
and over again! |
| Normally I enjoy
a lot of fantasy while I masturbate, lying on my back, pulling my knees up,
keeping my eyes closed. As my clit is hypersensitive, it isn't especially comfortable to touch it directly, so I
usually rub my labia
together over the clit, or stroke all around it. Usually I insert a finger
or two as well, often curling them back to hit my
G-spot. |
| My best way to
come is to have my partner
licking me out while he also uses a vibrator on me. |
| I just use my
fingers and hands. Since this is so effective, why use anything else? Plus
they aren't as noisy as vibrators, which means you don't have to worry about
any embarrassment! |
| To be exact: I
put my left middle
finger inside my vagina, while my right forefinger and middle finger play
with the area just below my
clitoris. |
| I lie on my back
and spread my legs wide apart, then I open my labia and begin to massage my vulva,
slowly at first, up and down between the inner lips, intensifying the
sense of touch. I like to put a finger or two inside my vagina and take as
much wetness as I can to my slit if it has not seeped out of its own
accord. I use my left hand, using a couple of fingers to rub my clitoris, I pull the
hood back and smack it from time to time, because the pleasure/pain
balance is always glorious. I intensify the rubbing on my clit,
chiefly on the left side until I feel my orgasm coming, at which point I put my
fingers inside my vagina and bring my legs together tightly. This always
makes my orgasm very intense.
Even after I've reached orgasm, I rub my clit for the after-effects. If
I'm in a hurry though, I can make myself come quickly by sticking my hand down my panties
no matter what I'm doing, quickly rubbing my clit with a finger, not
exploring my cunt, not putting
fingers inside my vagina, nothing more than a quick rubbing of my clit, and
there you are, I come! |
| I make circles around
my clit, and I keep touching the inside of my leg. |
| I love it when my
male partner uses my massive dildo on both my vagina and butthole, because he knows
exactly where to stimulate me! |
| I start out
slowly by gently
rubbing my clit. I slowly push two fingers into my pussy and then I slowly
stimulate
my G-spot. I will usually get my vibrator out and push it inside me as I play with
my clit until I reach orgasm. |
| I masturbate
myself by
using a vibrator until I am highly aroused and then I stuff candles,
cucumbers, a zucchini into my vagina. I also think it's extremely exciting to
gradually increase the pressure and then let my pee squirt out in a huge
arc as I come! |
| I usually enjoy
masturbating by using two fingers, but sometimes I use a vibrator...and also
sometimes my boyfriends do it for me! |
| I lie on my front
on the bed on a towel and then rub my clit on it while I also push a
dildo up my vagina - if my boyfriend is here, he does from behind. He also
loves to play with my
asshole while I come! |
| I mount a pillow
with a strap-on dildo belted onto it. |
| I spit on my
fingers and when they are well lubed, I play with my clitoris. |
| Most of time I
use my vibrator, and my boyfriend uses a little vibrator he can strap on
his tongue. |
| I usually use my
a finger to play with my clitoris before I use 2
fingers to rub along my vulva in a slow, luxurious up and down movement. |
| I apply hard pressure on
the tip of my clit, and at the same time either me or my boyfriend puts a
finger in my vagina. |
| I rub my fingers back and forth and
along my labia so I get indirect pressure until I'm near orgasm, then I
touch the
clit itself and that makes me come in seconds. |
| I lay on my bed
playing some sexy music, before I rub my clit very gently and I finger
myself with 2 fingers. After a long, slow build-up, I squirt all over the
bed. |
| Lying on my
belly, using both hands under me to play with my clit. |
| I absolutely
adore rubbing my
partner's penis up and down my slit and on my clit. |
| I use my fingers
on my slit or my boyfriend stimulates me with his tongue in a fast circular
motion. |
| My main method of
masturbation is to use a shower head or running water. |
| I start by
stroking the inside of my thighs using oil to lube myself, before gradually working
a finger into my vagina, then alternating with long strokes all the way
from my butt hole to my clit, and every so often putting one or two fingers into my vagina. If I'm using a
dildo or vibrator I start off with it on a low setting before flicking it across my
clit, but I can only do this after I'm highly aroused otherwise it's
just too intense! |
| At home if my man
is
not around I will enjoy masturbating myself. I always start by playing
with my lips between two
of my fingers. After a while, some lubrication will help me play outside
and inside my vagina, using a dildo or a vibrator. After about 5 to 10
minutes I start to orgasm. And when I come I use a finger directly on my
clit. |
| I almost always
use a vibrating massager which gives me at least ten huge orgasms every time I masturbate
- my husband loves to watch me. |
| I just get into a
very horny mood, highly aroused, and then start rubbing my clit through my
panties until I get hotter, at which point I remove them and simply go for it with my finger. |
| I take my index
and third fingers and place them on each side of my clitoral shaft, scissoring them back and
forth until I achieve orgasm. |
| I just stimulate the clitoris and
inner labia, but mainly the clitoris, and this stimulation
should be using lots of lube, teasing it smoothly till I explode! |
| I masturbate
mainly by
rubbing my clit against another object, normally a pillow.
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How often do you and a partner have penetrative
sex? |
Percent |
|
Never or very rarely |
23 |
| 1 or 2 times a month |
12 |
| 3 to 6 |
15 |
|
7 to 11 |
20 |
| 12 or more |
30 |
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Do you come during sex from thrusting alone (without additional clitoral
play)? |
Percent |
|
|
35 |
| Up to
one time in ten, say | |
10 |
|
|
5 |
|
|
10 |
| Up to three out
of four times | |
15 |
|
|
25 |
|
|
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| 13 Do you
ever climax during intercourse? If so, what sexual position do you use to get to
orgasm? |
| Man entering me
from behind as I bend over and I frig my own clitoris. |
| We love the
missionary position, and we have oral stimulation first, until I am
extremely aroused, then he just enters me, we go at it, and there is
enough friction on my G-spot to make me
orgasm during sex. |
| When I made love
to my last boyfriend, we would use the
man on top or missionary position and I
would play with my clit to make me come while he thrusted. Alternatively
we would do it doggy style, with deeper penetration which put the shaft of
his penis into direct contact with my clitoris. He lasted for ages before
he came, which
allowed me to get aroused enough to achieve orgasm, and he enjoyed coming
as my vagina pulsed around his cock. The big problem was that doggy style
sex seemed a bit disconnected. |
| I have to play
with my
clitoris during sexual intercourse with my boyfriend because his penis is
short and very thick. |
| One of the best
sexual techniques I know of is for me - his girl - to be lying on top of
him, face to face, and then I can have his hands positioned on his pelvis
which means they create a bump for my clitoris to rub against. |
| Normally I play
with my
clit but if even when I don't I can still get to orgasm. |
| I stimulate my
clitoris with a vibrator. |
| My boyfriend
knows how to take a
woman to orgasm - usually he masturbates my clit when he gives me an
orgasm . |
| I haven't
achieved orgasm yet, but I've got really close when we use woman on top combined
with clitoral stimulation: I straddle him, but facing away from him, which
gives me more stimulation than any other position. |
| No, I can reach
orgasm any
way. I climax as much as five to six times a session. |
| If I push my body
against
his pelvic bone during sexual intercourse I will reach orgasm. |
| If my male partner
gives me oral sex, then penetrates my vagina, I will climax only when I massage my clit. I
think maybe I have masturbated so much to orgasm that now
I can't achieve an orgasm without some direct stimulation of the
clitoris. |
| I am very lucky
because I
love my partner so much that I reach orgasm when he sticks his cock in me! |
| I have to use clitoral
masturbation. |
| I achieve orgasm
during
intercourse with or without clitoral stimulation, I always come! |
| We prefer to lie
with me on my back, my male
partner above, and I place my hand between us and play with my clitoris. |
| I mostly use
clitoral masturbation to reach orgasm. |
| It's not a
sexual position, it's a sexual technique. If he orally stimulates me
before penetration, I achieve orgasm easily. If we go straight for penetration, it takes
me longer to reach orgasm,
but all sex positions are just as good for me in this respect - and sometimes I
need to be taken hard and fast, and those times are some of the best! |
| More of a chance
for me to reach orgasm
if he's behind me and I'm kneeling - especially if there's a mirror available -
in which case I will get really turned on and
occasionally I can come through sexual intercourse alone. |
| I don't really
know if I am able to reach orgasm in this way as I've only had sex a few
times... I wasn't actually ready or, to be honest, wanting
it...I've had sex with several boys in other ways (masturbating each other,
giving each other oral sex) and in total I have only reached orgasm on three
occasions - which isn't
very impressive given the fact that I can come easily on my own. |
| I start
with my partner's erect penis positioned in my vulva, and I like to rub my clitoris
up and down on his knob until I am wet. After this, I love to have him put
his cock inside me from
the
rear entry position and thrust. We will then move in rhythm quite a bit,
often changing positions, and
we generally have a wonderful time feeling each other moving together. |
| I usually play
with and rub my
clitoris, as this always makes me really wet and juicy and gets me ready
to come more often and harder when he
enters me and starts to fuck me. I love it!! |
| I rub my clitoris
with my fingers using a great deal of pressure as my boyfriend and I make
love. |
| I get on top -
which is one way in which I am able to
control how my clitoris will rub up against his
body. |
| I find being on
top during sex helps me to reach orgasm nearly every time. We also like the
rear entry sex as
this always enables him to hit my G spot! I need to tell you that before my husband
I'd never reached orgasm during sexual intercourse - not once! and I have
to say I'd certainly slept with a few
different men. I think it helps to reach orgasm when you're making love with your
favorite guy! |
| The best way for
me to reach orgasm is during sex with me on top - that presents no
problem, and another good way is during man on top sex
with him fingering me around the clitoral region. |
| I or he usually
stimulates my clit while we have foreplay and after he's penetrated me,
or even when he uses a dildo inside me |
| I push a finger inside my vagina during
intercourse as he thrusts hard and then I touch and press on my G-spot (which
is not hard, believe it or not!). |
| If I don't think
I am going to achieve orgasm, I usually play with my clitoris until I feel
myself coming. |
| I've never
reached orgasm during sexual intercourse, even when I've tried
desperately, no matter what sex
position we have used. |
| Well yes, I can
reach orgasm while
having sex if I stimulate my clitoris for a long period of time, but
usually my boyfriend ejaculates long before I come, so this is a bit hit and miss.
A much better system is for me to achieve orgasm first, then he enters me
and we have wonderful intercourse, the advantage of this is that I am
swollen inside and my
man enjoys sex better since he finds my cunt is tighter.
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| 14 What position do you
enjoy or use most often during intercourse? |
Percent |
|
Man on top or missionary |
31 |
| Woman on top facing
the man |
18 |
| Woman on
top facing the other way |
3 |
| Rear entry standing
or sitting |
34 |
| Side by side |
4 |
| Standing or kneeling |
1 |
| 15 Do you
think clitoral and vaginal orgasms are two different things? |
Percent |
| Yes |
49 |
| No |
31 |
| Don't know |
20 |
| 16
What's different between a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm? |
| All my
orgasms are fantastic and come from the same place. |
|
Vaginal
orgasms are much harder to achieve than clitoral orgasms. |
| I prefer
an orgasm from my clitoris as my body goes into seemingly endless spasms
which make me feel like I am floating on air and I produce a lot of vaginal secretions. |
| Vaginal
orgasms tend to be more all-over-the-body rather than in the genitals. |
|
Clitoral
orgasms originate from the clitoris and pass around like a
bolt of electricity that spreads outwards from the clitoris and move up and around.
They also feel shorter, sharper and more intense. Vaginal orgasms are
somehow bigger, in that the orgasm has the sense of coming from a larger place,
and it's as if your
whole body is in the throes of orgasm. they also take longer to reach and
somehow feel like you have to hold on to them for them to happen, after
which it feels like "wave" exploding out
of the vagina, while a clitoral climax feels more like a bolt of
lightning coming out of the clitoris. |
| The
difference is with that a clitoral
orgasm makes you come quickly but when
you have a vaginal
orgasm the whole thing is much slower and more of a whole body experience;
it's also much more
emotional. |
| Clitoral
climaxes are much shorter, more intense, and feel better than vaginal - at
least for me, and also more vaginal fluid is
produced. |
| Yes, I
think I agree with what you say. I've felt two seemingly distinct types of
climax - ones feel centered in the clitoris, which tend to be shorter and
explosive, and also vaginal
orgasms which feel centered inside my body somewhere (perhaps
centering on the uterus?) and seem to be much more muscular and wave like. |
| The G-spot
makes a vaginal orgasm much more powerful. |
| Clitoral
orgasms are short, sharp and intense. Vaginal orgasms have a deeper and
much fuller quality. |
| Yes.
Vaginal orgasms come from deeper inside the body. |
| Yes.
Clitoral climaxes are usually more
powerful while vaginal orgasms come from the depths of my being. |
| Yes,
vaginal orgasms are much more satisfying, while clitoral orgasms are
sharper and intense. |
| Clitoral
orgasms are more powerful. |
| Vaginal
climaxes tend to be deeper and last longer.... while the clitoral climaxes are a quick
high! |
| The
difference seems to be around the way we stimulate
them. But an orgasm is an orgasm no matter where you think it comes from. |
| Yes,
the clitoral orgasm is quicker while vaginal orgasms are more of an
all-over-my-body experience. |
| Yes
clitoral orgasms are more powerful albeit shorter lived, while vaginal orgasms
seem much more soothing and healing. |
| I find
clitoral orgasms very rewarding in their intensity, while they do
have the added pleasure of having your man's penis inside
your most intimate place. Bliss! |
| Yes and
I've only experienced the clitoral kind, but it sounds to me like the
clitoral orgasm is probably shorter and more powerful. |
| Yes!
Vaginal is something you experience deep inside, while the clitoral climax
is more external and much more of a superficial thing. |
| Yes I do
agree there
are two types. The vaginal orgasm is much more emotional, deep-seated, and
covers the whole body but is harder to achieve; the clitoral
is a great deal more more focused on one point, and is very concentrated
in the genital area. |
| Yes I
agree with you because a clitoral orgasm always arrives with great speed
and great intensity, whereas one that comes from the vagina is deeper, more
centered inside my body, and also seems to last longer. |
| Yes I feel
vaginal orgasms are more mellow, deeper somehow, both physically and
mentally, and go on a bit longer than does a clitoral. When I enjoy
self-pleasuring, i.e. masturbating, I usually have
clitoral but when I am with my partner I am able to have a vaginal climax for some
reason I don't fully understand. |
| I agree
that they are probably different but I find it hard to articulate what that difference
is. |
| There is a
big difference but it's odd, because all I can say is one is more "full" than
the other (that's the vaginal). |
| Yes,
vaginal ones are warm, clitoral experiences are hard and deep. |
| Vaginal
feel much sweeter emotionally. |
| With
vaginal orgasms I experience a wonderful tingle right through me all the
way to my feet. With a clitoral orgasm I
pulsate, I don't tingle. |
| Clitoral
seems like a softer orgasm although if I manage to get both clitoral and
vaginal at the
same time it is amazing! But a climax from the vagina seems to be much stronger and
seems to last for much longer too. |
| When I
experience clitoral stimulation I always tend to think my orgasms are
usually more powerful if shorter lasting |
| I think
clitoral could be described as more intense and vaginal could be described
as rather subtle. |
| Vaginal
gives a sense, at least it does for me, of being "filled", while the other
kind, the clitoral, feels like it is much more "on the
specific spot". |
| Yes, I
agree that women have at least two types of orgasms and I can only offer
the statement that vaginal last longer. |
| Yes, and I
think the
vaginal orgasm is rather like a kick in the small of the back it's so
powerful. |
| No, I
think the only thing that is different is the actual intensity of the orgasmic
experience. |
| Clitoral
climaxes win hands down, as they are more intense. |
| One's much
deeper than the other. |
| I tend to feel
an explosion which takes place in my clitoris, or if it is vaginally-based,
then in the walls of the vagina, so I think whichever part of your body you stimulate
produces enough sensitivity to stimulate an orgasm, while I think from personal experience
that clitoral
orgasms are by far the best! |
| I have to
say I do get
pelvic contractions when I have a vaginal orgasm - and these contractions
are much more superficial in any other kind of climax.
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17
How much pleasure do you have during these
activities? |
| % |
Loads! |
It's
very good |
Good |
OK |
Pah! |
| Sexual intercourse alone |
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15 |
30 |
30 |
15 |
10 |
|
Sexual intercourse when
partner plays with clitoris |
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45 |
20 |
20 |
10 |
5 |
|
Sexual intercourse with you
play with my own clitoris |
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35 |
30 |
20 |
15 |
10 |
|
Masturbation by hand |
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50 |
40 |
5 |
3 |
2 |
|
Masturbation with objects |
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40 |
40 |
15 |
3 |
2 |
|
Partner masturbates you |
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45 |
35 |
15 |
3 |
2 |
|
|
60 |
25 |
5 |
5 |
5 |
| 18 Do you achieve
mutual, simultaneous climax with your partner during sexual
intercourse? |
Percent |
|
|
40 |
|
|
40 |
|
|
10 |
|
|
10 |
| 19 Have you ever
pretended to come during sex, and if so why? |
Percent |
| Yes |
60 |
| No |
40 |
| |
| Yes. Once
or twice I pretended to have an orgasm to get it over with -
he had delayed
ejaculation and just wasn't up to scratch. |
| No, I have
been with my partner so long, that when he wants to have sex, and I don't,
I just let him fuck me and I just make it quick. |
| Yes, to
protect his ego. |
| Yes, half
the time, for something to do. |
| Yes...worried that man will feel he's not pleasing
me. |
| Yes,
often, because I don't know if I am having one or not. I usually don't
have any fluids come out. |
| I have, to
avoid disappointing my partner. |
| Once, when
this guy was fingering me with his too-long fingernail just so he'd stop.
He thought my gasp of pain was a gasp of pleasure, so I went with
it. |
| 2 times,
just to make him feel good I guess. |
| Very
often. I get sick of trying to cum and my partner feels bad if I
don't. |
| No, and I
never will. How will men learn to be better lovers if we do
that? |
| Yes, when
it's enough already and I want to get some sleep. Hardly
ever. |
| Yeah. Not
often. If he's taking too long and I'm tired. |
| Yes, to
save the guy's feelings. |
| Yes.....a
lot...so they would feel good/ stop. |
| No. I
always get there. |
| Yes, to
make him feel good. |
| Yes, just
because I don't want my partner to get a complex about not making me come.
He went for hours one night trying to make me have a vaginal orgasm, so I
finally just gave my best acting performance to get him off and out of
me. |
| Yes. Just
to make my lover enjoy his effort. |
| Often when
I'm tired. |
| Of course,
just to get things over with. |
| Yes,
because I'm tired and so to let him come I fake it. |
| Yes,
because he was too small and couldn't use it. |
| A few
times, if I knew I couldn't climax, I would do it for his pleasure
(squeezing down, coughing etc). |
| Yes I've
faked for his ego in the past, but I no longer do that. I feel my orgasm
is as important as his, and he agrees. If I can't have one, I just enjoy
the ride and being naked and close with him, and I may masturbate with his
help after we have sex, and I'm always successful when we do
that. |
| Yes, it's
easier than to explain why I didn't come. |
| Nope.
Faking isn't fair, it's mean and it's cheating. If you can't get there,
just tell the man (or woman)...he/she might feel crappy about not getting
you there, but I guarantee they'll feel more crappy if they find out
you've been faking the whole time...telling your partner enables you to
try new things that might get you there...faking doesn't. |
| I used to
fake, but decided to stop because I feel I deserve an orgasm as much as he
does. It required only my speaking up and telling him what I like, what
will make me cum. I don't know why I faked for so long when having orgasms
is so easy once my partner learned what I needed. |
| Yes he
gets worried if I don't come. |
| I have
only faked an orgasm once. He was very proud and I couldn't tell him that
I had not come. |
| I've only
faked it once just to see how the man felt watching me doing
it. |
| Yes, got
bored. |
| Of course,
don't we all? |
| I used to
with my ex husband, he didn't ever worry about me having an orgasm, so I
led him to believe he was really doing something. |
| Not
anymore no. I've never had to fake it with my husband but yes I did with
other partners every time. Sad, eh? |
| Of course
but only when I am too tired to orgasm in fact, and he doesn't get
it. |
| Yes, not
often though. I feel that my partner should know exactly how I feel, it
enhances the possibility of achieving orgasm, because he tries
harder. |
| Never,
it's better to talk and find out what was wrong. |
| Yeah,
because we were fucking without a condom and I didn't want him to cum in
me. |
| Daily.
Because it would break his heart to know he can't make me
orgasm. |
| I have
never faked any orgasms.....I come all the time unless I'm in a hurry and
don't have the time for my partner to make me come.
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20 Do you ever have
multiple orgasms? |
Percent |
|
|
13 |
| Occasionally |
13 |
| Sometimes |
40 |
|
|
14 |
|
|
20 |
| 21
If you enjoy multiple orgasms, how many orgasms do you have in one session? |
Percent |
|
|
13 |
|
|
48 |
|
|
25 |
|
|
14 |
| 22 How
often, when
highly aroused, do you fail to climax? What do you do about it? |
| Yes
this has happened. Usually persistence or stopping for a bit
works. |
| A
dildo. |
| Only
when I have had a lot of sex that day, or I didn't want sex and just went
along with it to please my spouse. Oral stimulation is the only way I can
get off on those occasions. |
| This
happens very often and I don't know what to do. |
| If my
boyfriend blew softly in my ear and told me he loved me. |
|
Fantasize about a big
dick. |
| I don't
think I ever get really sexually excited and can't reach orgasm. I come so
easily! And if it's taking longer than usual I can't stop until I come.
That being said I'm not sure what would help if I wasn't. If all the
physical stimulation was right it could be mental. And any woman having a
problem with it should get themselves in a better mental - emotional state
and or let their minds relax and or go to sexual
fantasy. |
| Porno. |
| For him
to go down on me. |
| If that
happens, I think of other women's cunts. |
| Emptying my bladder. |
| Clitoral masturbation. |
| That
has never happened to me. If I'm on the brink of orgasm, I always
come. |
| A
romantic partner. |
| Not
often. Clitoral stimulation. |
| To be
more comfortable with myself and to stop thinking about my partner as
much. |
| I like
to tickle my vaginal opening. |
| Every
time. |
| Clear
my mind and focus on coming. |
| Stop,
relax and try again |
| I wish
I knew! |
| Anal
stimulation. |
| It
happens occasionally. I don't know what to do. |
| Most of
the time; just take more time. |
| This
happens a lot, I don't know what to do. |
| My
partner goes deeper and faster and then the orgasm bursts through
me. |
| Good
head. |
| To be
more relaxed during foreplay and just set my mind on the sensation that
pleasure brings. |
| It
happens every once in a while... then I just need to make myself relax and
do something else then maybe come back to it later. But it's just so
frustrating I keep trying and trying. Sigh. I think I just get too
stimulated then lose the sensitivity and I can't come. |
| Sometimes. Maybe stop and cuddle some. |
| I have
no idea. |
| More
firm stimulation such as firm thrusts or firm pressure. Prolonged
intercourse when a guy knows
how to prevent premature ejaculation and last long enough so
he knows how to please a woman in
bed! |
| Sexy
thoughts |
| It
doesn't happen often, but it HAS happened, and when it does, we stop and
play with my pussy until I'm on the brink again! |
| Every
time when I'm with a man, rarely if ever when alone. When I'm with a man,
I think that either me telling him how to do it (something I'm shy about)
or me simply taking things into my own hands (no pun intended) would make
me come. |
| One in
20. My Sybian always works in these cases! |
| I
rarely find I can't have an orgasm once I'm on the brink. If I feel it
fading, I stop and masturbate or my partner masturbates me back to the
brink, then we resume intercourse and both of us have great
orgasms! |
| I
always orgasm. |
| I
haven't used many toys maybe that would help. |
| The man
sometimes slows down and keeps going for longer - then sometimes it just
happens. |
| Poor
concentration due to unconscious anxiety. I wish I could
relax. |
| I just
ease off and take my time. |
| That's
never happened to me. |
| Sometimes when I am too tired. I haven't found a way yet. It
just seems to become painful and not worth the effort. |
| Never. |
| Maybe 4
or 5 times.....it just required more stimulus.... |
| One in
ten. It would help to be less distracted by the day-to-day things in
life. |
| I need
more stimulation to my clit. |
| I never
have felt that way; I always orgasm. |
| I just
keep on playing with my clit. |
| More
often recently because my new partner gets me excited but quite often it
is a quick in and out thing for him (he comes too quickly). He feels bad
and he knows how I feel about this but, if he could manage to last for
just a minute longer I know I would come. |
| I don't
know, I have had this a couple of times and still can't work it
out. |
| I
usually come. |
| I
always can cum. |
| Fantasy
about taboo things will make me orgasm if I'm masturbating and can't seem
to come right away. During my husband playing with me, if he would take
more time with fingers in my vag as well as my clitoris, I might
come. |
| Well it
has happened quite a number of times but only under the influence of
drugs, I suppose drugs delay orgasms....but once you finally
come......it's mind-blowing!
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| 23
Do you have anal sex? |
Percent |
|
|
28 |
| Never - but I
wouldn't mind trying it | |
10 |
| Once or twice,
just to see what it was like | |
20 |
| Sometimes, to
please my partner | |
7 |
|
|
15 |
|
|
20 |
| 24 How many
sexual partners do you think you have had? |
Percent |
|
|
5 |
|
|
20 |
|
|
10 |
|
|
15 |
| More than 5 but
less than 10 | |
25 |
|
|
25 |
|
|
|
| 25
If you see
yourself as straight, have you ever
sought out a
same sex sexual experience ? |
Percent |
|
|
25 |
| No, but I've
wanted to try it. | |
19 |
| Yes, but it's not for me. | |
21 |
| Yes, and I'd do it again if I could. | |
20 |
|
|
15 |
| 26 What
do you enjoy most and least in sex? |
| The
possibility of getting pregnant. Most and least! |
| I like
everything about sex...but wish I could have orgasms through intercourse
alone. |
| The
after sex exhaustion. |
| The
build up to the climax is the best part. The least enjoyable part - I
haven't found one yet! |
| Intimacy. |
| Most -
Orgasms. Least - Stopping! |
| Orgasm. |
| Everything is good. |
| The
intimacy with the one I love is what I like most. What I like least is
that I don't come and I feel like I disappoint my partner as well as
myself. |
| I like
the intimacy before during and after, I like lots of foreplay, it
sometimes takes me 20 minutes to be fully aroused and thank god my
boyfriend has delayed ejaculation so it took him the same amount of time
to cum, maybe even longer so it was great. |
| Big
dicks. |
| Most -
I prefer it to be a full experience, being kissed and touched everywhere
and vice versa, really being present with my partner - no pressure or
inhibitions. Least - I've been with some uptight men who watch too much
porn, i.e., only get off one way, don't go down, treat me like a body not
a person. Fortunately, they've been the minority, but it
rankles. |
| Least
about sex? Nothing. Most about sex: the list is endless. |
| Everything is good. |
| I love
the way it makes me feel and I hate it when I have my period because I
can't do it. LOL! |
| Penises. |
| I like
everything to do with sex. |
| Most -
I like the feel of cum and the orgasm. Least - nothing that I can think
of. |
| It
makes my feel happy. |
| Like
most: closeness, sensuality, sensation. Like least: feeling awkward about
talking during sex. |
| Least:
when he comes in my mouth. Most: when he comes in my cunt. |
| Most:
the taste of my lover's body. |
| Most:
like foreplay then penetration. Least: when there's no
penetration. |
| I love
the closeness and feeling special. |
| Good:
it feels great, the intimacy, deep peace after. Bad: depends on the guy,
but maybe not being appreciated or "seen" as me. |
| The
closeness I love. That my boyfriend lives too far away I
hate! |
| I like
- orgasms, intimacy, great sensations. I dislike - cleaning up, peeing
straight afterwards, someone focusing too hard on my
pleasure. |
| I like
the feelings and sensations and the connection. I least like the
possibility of infections, not waiting long enough with a guy...and
getting ready...for example shaving my legs. |
| Most:
orgasm. Least: sometimes it's an effort. |
| I like
to drink my own cum juice and / or my partner's. |
| I like
the feeling of being coupled with my partner, as one. I don't like the
messiness of sex, or not being able to cum. |
| Least:
the cum coming out of my pussy, my husband has huge balls! |
| Most:
joy... sharing ... loving... comfort.... stress release....
escape..... |
| Most:
cumming Least: spunk dribbling out of me afterwards! |
| I like
the way he plays with my breasts but I hate getting dry all of a sudden,
which is always the case, and the fact that I can't reach orgasm
reliably. |
| I like
the closeness. |
| Most -
pleasure. Least - the confusion that intimacy can sometimes bring
about. |
| That it
can last forever and ever but that it can also be over so
quick. |
| Most
the closeness afterwards; least, some people just don't know how to do it
or me right. |
| Sometimes when he takes so long and it starts to feel more
irritating than good. |
| I love
sex, but sometimes I get tired and don't want to. |
| I like
that sex and masturbation are great forms of intimacy with a partner or
with yourself. It's great to know you have all this power inside of you to
feel so good. |
| Like:
it's fun. Dislike: too much of an emotional connection with another
person. |
| Most
closeness. Least mess, and cleaning up afterwards when he's come in
me. |
| Like:
tension release, togetherness. Dislike: not in the mood, can't
climax. |
| I love
kissing and being close, feeling his or her body, feeling my lips on his
cock or in her pussy. I'm very oral and that's important to me. I dislike
a "too gentle" touch. I want to feel it! |
| The
intensity: no thinking involved, totally enjoying each moment each as it
comes. |
| If it
is pleasurable it's a good release but it can cause arguments if I don't
react how my partner expects me to react. |
| I love
the intimacy, just being close to my partner...I hate the worry (am I
doing this right, do I smell okay, do I look okay, should I be doing this
at all, etc) and the fact that I can never seem to come, no matter how
much I actually want to or how close I actually get to doing
so. |
| Most:
The bit when you know you've reached the point of no return and the orgasm
is about to erupt. Least: Periods. |
| I love
everything. |
| I love
orgasm of course! I hate it if I have a partner who isn't into it, or I'm
not into it. |
| I hate
the meaningless touching of my breasts in an attempt to get me
aroused. |
| Mostly
about sex I like the idea of a man's cum inside of me......it really gets
my juices flowing. The thing I hate is the risk of an STI. |
| I love
the wide range of sexual positions, and I would love to have more time for
sex. |
| Love
it, hate the mess. |
| His
penis. |
| My
orgasm. |
| The
foreplay. |
| I love
the closeness that's involved and the fact that I can stop being a mom for
a few hours and be a woman again spending some us time pleasing and
teasing him. I love the look on my man's face when I go down on him! There
is nothing I hate about sex. |
| The
intimacy and closeness we feel after as we cuddle. The mess it can make as
neither of us likes wet sheets. Also how my husband just can't seem to
pick up when I am not in the mood for sex. |
| The
dirty linen (when I'm having the monthly bleeding). The tension before and
the good feeling after an orgasm. |
| Having
multiple orgasms is great. But I dislike guys who think they have to shove
it so hard from the start; and especially men who don't know anal
penetration has to be slow. |
| The
feeling of closeness to my partner. |
| I like
everything about it. |
| What I
most like about sex is when I am about to orgasm and I like the feel of my
wet vagina and I also like to see my clit get really big. There is nothing
really that I hate about sex. |
| Most
like having him come in me. Least like going to the bathroom to get his
come out of me! |
| The
physical and emotional bond that it provides for yourself and your
partner. |
| The
best a true sense of connection that can come from being intimate with
someone you love, the worst is being frustrated that they are away at the
other end of the country when I want my brains fucked out. |
| It's
all good! |
| Orgasms
and closeness the most. Cleaning up semen the least. |
| I love
the feelings, the pleasure and the fun. I don't like the risk of getting
pregnant or STDs. |
| I love
the close feeling and the beautiful feelings. Least I don't like some guy
who thinks I should worship his cock. |
| I like
feeling close to my husband and I LOVE when he comes. Least: When I can't
come. |
| Feeling
special. |
| I love
everything about sex. But there is one thing I don't like about it, the
fact that it is extremely difficult for both partners to come at the same
time....those who do experience that are bloody lucky! |
| I like
sex most if it's not demanded, least if it is.
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| 27 Do you have a fantasy about an ideal sexual experience? |
| Would like for us
to take turns tying each other up and while blindfolding my partner...try
different touches and sensations all over his body without him seeing what
I am going to do next until he can't stand it anymore! |
| I would like to
be eaten out for at least 10 mins. |
| My ideal sexual
experience is just 15-20 minutes of just kissing and rubbing each other,
caresses, then a classic 69 with me on top, until I get my first climax,
then penetration intercourse with me on top and finishing with me on the
bottom and we come together. |
| Foreplay. As long
as I get off I love all sex. |
| Long steamy
foreplay followed by a mind-blowing orgasm. |
| Foreplay for 30 -
40 minutes. |
| Everything my
partner does excites me, I just never climax. |
| I would like to
do a sexy strip tease for my boyfriend and he could do the same for me,
then I'd give him a sexy massage and and he could slowly and delicately
give me a sensual massage and then kiss me all over and slowly kiss my
outer lips with his tongue running boldly along my fleshy mound and slowly
stroking the shaft of my clit with his tongue and nibbling my bud! God -
heavenly! |
| Him licking my
pussy. |
| Foreplay for
hours, oral sex, massage, sex, mutual masturbation...the last experience I
had was like this and I loved it. |
| Most of my sexual
experiences are my "ideal". One thing I'd love to do though is have sex
with two men. Double your pleasure! They wouldn't (and I probably wouldn't
want them to) have to have sex with each other (I think it might be a
turnoff) but I'd love to have them both "working" on me and "adoring" me
at once! One kissing my breasts, one making love to me, you get the idea.
Hmmmm that would be fun! :) |
| He licks my clit
as I suck suck his cock. |
| An all-nighter
that starts out with a candlelight dinner. |
| My man eats me
out for ages then fucks me hard. |
| I would like to
be gone down on for a long time and kissed all over...I want hot intense
sex the kind where you can't get enough of each other. |
| I want to cum
with several women - all naked and with huge breasts and moist cunts, all
taking turns to lick my cunt and clit. |
| He should do it
to me with his fingers, his mouth and his penis. |
| Foreplay?
Interesting concept... I never get it. Hmmm... I think I'd like a
threesome or an orgy. I'd want to try EVERYTHING I could think of in as
many different locations as possible! A whole, uninterrupted day of
experimenting would be FAB. |
| I'd like to fuck
three guys at once. |
| Two
men. |
| I would like to
be able to orgasm with penetration. |
| I am half asleep,
just waking up in the morning. My partner begins to kiss me all over, then
to kiss my vulva till I am hot and wet. Then he enters me. Several short
strokes for each deep one. Alternating a few minutes of penis and a few
minutes of tongue on my vulva. After he comes he kisses my vulva more.
Then he kisses me. I love our juices together. Then he strokes my skin,
outlining my body and talks with me. |
| I'd love to have
a threesome with two guys. Having the attention of both of them would be
amazing. |
| Summer night,
beach close by, some red wine, dinner has just been eaten maybe 20 minutes
ago, foreplay lasts 10 minutes developing into intercourse which goes for
20 minutes ending with simultaneous orgasms. |
| To please him and
him please me without it getting redundant or boring exciting and
fun. |
| I would
like him to shave me if I haven't done it. He can then lick my entire body
including my anus and finger me everywhere. |
| I love a lot of
foreplay particularly being eaten out. I would like two have a three way
with another woman and a man. |
| On a beach,
totally relaxed, my partner eating me out, using oils and food on my hard
clit. Not having to give him head, but having him totally devour me, and
then when I least expect it, he rams his penis in me at full force. The
unexpected rush of being blindly penetrated makes it that much more
arousing. |
| I like when he
licks my ass and fingers my pussy and plays with my nipples at the same
time. |
| I would like to
be able to have anyone I want at any time.... 2-3 new partners a
day! |
| Two
men. |
| If only he'd lick
my anus.... |
| Foreplay for half
an hour. Intercourse that lasted for 15 minutes or more. |
| Sex all day
long. |
| An hour of
foreplay is plenty. Then he pampers me. |
| I would have him
go down on me or we could both do a 69 at the same time and then when were
both so turned on we could start a sexual encounter in doggy style
position and go from there. |
| I love long
foreplay, for me it can go on for as long as we both can. I just love when
he plays with my clit, licking on it sucking on it, tonguing it, then
fingering me until I come. |
| Two hours of
sex. |
| I just want to
have sex with someone I love. Male or female... Just want to be intimate
with someone I love. |
| We would do sex
outdoors everywhere we could without getting arrested. |
| Romantic
evening-dinner-cuddle and kiss at home - slowly get naked - lovingly suck
and tease him - lay back and relax while he licks me - gentle sex becoming
more urgent until he's pounding me to climax and then he comes inside
me. |
| It could go for a
few hours to the whole day, nothing to worry about in the outside world,
no tension, no one to bother us, him taking care of me and my needs, I
would be selfish and have him take care of me first. |
| Role play; strip
teases; fondling. |
| I have anything I
want and can't think of a fantasy! We make love at spontaneous times, in
different places, and he is a romantic with me. |
| Anything where I
am the main focus although wouldn't mind another girl being involved just
the usual kissing licking sucking and fucking...each new experience I
enjoy... |
| A love triangle
with another woman. 30mins of foreplay then hours of sex. |
| Foreplay--maybe...a half hour? I would love to experiment with
fetish like light bondage and possibly light S&M...I also find
piercings sexy, so I'd love to pierce my partner...or maybe light blood
play, provided we both were tested for all STDs and I had been with my
partner for a long time...I admit, I'm kinky...I wouldn't mind trying anal
sex, and I would love to have a threesome with myself and two sexy men,
but my partner wouldn't be down with that, and I would love to have sex
with two men...that would be hot...if I did that, I would like to see the
men kiss and possibly do more with each other...it's such a turn on...I
would also like shower sex, and a bubble bath, and a massage...I would
want my partner(s) to focus on me and my needs first, because I'm sensual
and have always had to focus on others' needs before my own...yeah...I'm
pretty much into trying anything, as long as it's not involving disgusting
things and isn't too painful. |
| Tie him up while
his sister and I torment him and make love to each other. |
| I love it when he
goes down on me and really slurps, and I love going down on him, tasting
him, smelling him. He would have me stand in front of him while he eats me
and reaches around me and spanks me while he's eating me. I would tie him
up and tease him for a while, make him beg me to untie him so he could
have a crashing orgasm. |
| Maybe another
girl who could teach him how to do it while she gives me an orgasm to
remember. |
| I'd like
him to go down on me for longer, then I would kiss him to taste my vulva
which would turn me on, then I would ride him with him wearing no condom.
I would then suck him off until he came then I would lick his bum hole!
That would turn me on a lot! |
| I would like to
be able to have more then one orgasm. |
| Well we'd be in a
little cottage, open fire, the lot, a few bottles of good red wine, the
foreplay would last for hours but then I'd take charge and I would tease
my man till he could take no more. I'd strip for him and dance round the
pole that I've had put there. He'd love that but no touching, then I'd
blindfold him and rub my pussy in his face till I'd come all over him. And
his hands would be tied so he'd get pent up with frustration. Then he'd
burst free and he'd grab me and thrust me up the wall and screw me so hard
and fast the orgasms would just keep coming and coming and
coming! |
| A slow sensual
massage with him kissing and rubbing my body. Then have him eat me while I
eat him. Then followed by long slow intercourse. Then a long session of
cuddling to bring us back to earth. I would like foreplay to last until my
first orgasm if possible. More energy and time to enjoy each other
fully. |
| Having my partner
undress me, using only his teeth. Sex in the shower. Licking his prick
until he comes. |
| Foreplay....maybe
half hour or 45 minutes. |
| Feeling him
sucking me as I suck him. |
| Depends on the
situation. A quickie may well be as hot an experience as a full night of
sex and playing. |
| Sexual
intercourse with 6 men. |
| My ideal sexual
experience would be for me and my girlfriend to have a 4-some with 2 other
girls. |
| Lying there
letting him kiss me and suck my tits and go down on me for as long as he
wants. |
| Lots of gentle
kisses and touches all over my body for at least ten minutes, touching me
everywhere except for my vagina, then for him to enter me slowly building
up pressure and momentum very slowly till neither of us can take it any
longer and we both come in a massive orgasm together. |
| Start Saturday
morning and finish Sunday night, in a nice country hotel and a hot tub on
a balcony with nice sunny weather and a clear night. |
| Being penetrated
by 3 people at once and all action captured on video so that it's
available to the public. |
| I would
masturbate with my vibrator while watching another woman have
orgasms. |
| I would love if I
had the cutest guy in the world fuck me in every single position ever
invented and in every hole for one week solid. |
| I always like to
be brought to orgasm before penetration. I especially love it if he makes
me come with his tongue. I can come two or three times like this and then
I want to feel him inside me. |
| I'd like to start
with a lot of kissing and touching. Maybe less contact with my nipples,
and more on and in my vagina. I'd like longer foreplay for at least 20
mins. He lasts a very long time once we start intercourse, so I have no
complaints there! |
| The longer the
foreplay the better the orgasm, not too long of course (max 30 mins) or
else it could get tiring....and what I'd do to him? Well, just keep
sucking on him like it's the last strawberry lollypop in the world and I'm
a little child who just can't seem to get enough of it! Yeah that's what
Id love to do....suck like there's no tomorrow!
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| 28 Do you have any other comments? |
| During masturbation,
I dream of a hard shiny penis sliding into a wet vagina and picture me as
the owner of the vagina, and I come up off that bed
screaming. |
| I've never taken
part in group sex but I would like to be with more than one
man. |
| I think that
clitorises get a lot of play and well they should, they're important but I
LOVE penetration and penises are perfect for this. They should get their
due! :) |
| I hate my long
flaps! |
| What happens to my
body? When I have exceptionally good orgasms, the sensation goes all the
way down to my toes, and up through the centre of my abdomen - it's
heavenly. My eyes go back in my head, my back arches, and I feel tingly
all over afterwards. Sometimes my vision goes out, and if I try to stand
up my legs are too weak. Fantasies - I have all kinds of fantasies: animal
sex, evil gynecologist, sex with my favorite rock-stars, imagining myself
as male, orgy fantasies, imagining two hot guys together, etc, etc. Group
sex - I fully intend to try it! |
| I fantasize sex with
big cats. Lions and jaguars. |
| When I cum, I lose
all control of my leg muscles...they twitch and jerk...my clit becomes so
sensitive that it can't be touched. I have fantasies of my lover eating me
out, and me giving him the ultimate blow job. |
| I fantasize being
gang banged by strangers who talk nasty to me....... |
| When I come I'm
rough, I claw, scratch and bite. If it's really good, I'll have trouble
standing or walking right after. |
| I just feel
beautiful when I'm coming. Sigh. |
| I've never had group
sex and don't want it. I am bisexual but I keep the two separate. I find I
think of him all the time, we live in different cities and have to arrange
our times together, and I find myself looking forward to them, dreaming of
what we'll do next! We are very satisfied with this arrangement, and we
have no intention of moving in together. We don't live that far apart, so
we see each other often. With a woman, I haven't even begun to explore all
my fantasies! I am extremely bisexual and I always look forward to being
with a woman, but having had a few, I find I like the aggressive women
more than the passive ones in bed. I like boldness, directness, wanton sex
with a woman, but with my male partner I like kissing, sweet cuddling, and
making it last several hours. It's a different experience for each and I
love both. |
| There are so many
things I could say...I will admit that I love to orgasm. I wish it could
happen more with my partner, rather than only when I'm alone...I have a
very active imagination, and frequently imagine myself with various famous
men...I'm really into musicians, and I love gothic or punk looking
men...I'm so into piercings and tattoos and crazy hair...I'd love to be
able to get down and dirty with several men - Davey Havok, singer of AFI,
and the twins, Benji and Joel, from Good Charlotte...which leads me back
to the twin fantasy...sleeping with those two twins at one time would
truly blow my mind...okay, I'm going to leave now, you've gotten me all
hot and bothered with these questions...I'll definitely be getting
intimate with my vulva (alone, thank you) tonight! |
| My entire body feels
my orgasms. I get chill bumps, my nipples harden, my breath comes in short
gasps, and I get very hot. I am a bisexual woman, and I love sex with
women as much as I do with my male partner of 4 years. I love the curves
of another woman's body, the way her vagina tastes and the softness of her
inner lips on my tongue. I love nipples, and breasts are one of my biggest
turn-ons. It's great to look between my legs and see a woman there,
enjoying my womanhood and allowing me to enjoy hers. Women know what other
women want, and orgasms are different with a woman than with a man. Women
"get it" about each other, and we aren't as hung up about our body image
as we are with a man. I do love sex with my male partner. He is shaved
from head to toe, and I love the smoothness of his skin, I love taking his
perfectly smooth balls in my mouth, kissing his smooth body. His cock is
the object of my desire! Even after we have made love and both of us have
had an orgasm or two, I still want to look at him, touch him, and watch
him harden again. I can't get enough of him. We haven't taken part in
group sex. My male partner and I want only us when we're having sex, but I
have had sex with two women at once. I find it too distracting though, I
can't concentrate on her or me. A fantasy of mine is to meet a woman and
end up in bed with her not long after we meet, animalistic desire taking
over. I'd love to be seduced by a woman who doesn't know I'm bisexual,
have sex with her and never see her again. I don't have any fantasies
about men because I am very satisfied with my sex life with my partner. He
knows I'm bisexual but he does not ask to watch or participate, because
when we are together, we are exclusive. He does want to hear about what I
do though. I am quite satisfied sexually. |
| I love coming but
the time I had the best sex ever, it made me squirt! He loved it and
started to lick the come. This has never happened since but boy I wish it
would. |
| I would love to know
how to be able to have more orgasms. After I have one I'm not horny any
more. |
| Group sex is
overrated. Been there, done it, worn the t shirt, I prefer one on
one! |
| I would like very
much to try a lesbian orgy of more than ten people, you know hot sweaty
and anything goes. |
| I a horny, slutty
middle school female student. I have participated in group sex with 5
other boys. I've had sex with older men, younger men, women. I do enjoy
looking at porn so I can learn new moves and such. I've had anal sex, oral
sex and vaginal sex. I've been raped. I do not enjoy role play sex and I
wish my ass was smaller. |
| Yes, I have been in
group sessions more than a few times. An ex-boyfriend and I were in a
swinging group. It was great then but now I am more concerned about safe
sex. I have also been with a few women. I loved it and am working on a
relationship with a wonderful woman now. |
| My whole body shakes
and I twitch when I come. I fantasize about group sex and anything taboo.
We have taken part in a swinging party once with two other couples. His
idea, but he couldn't come. I had one woman and two men on me. I loved
it! |
| When I come I feel
this tremor of waves between my legs.....rapid contraction and relaxation
of my vaginal muscles is a characteristic of my orgasms. My sexual fantasy
is to suck a female's clit for a change. I'd love to make her come and
hear her moan with pleasure, especially if she begs for more. I have never
taken part in group sex....the problem is that I'm totally in love and
can't see myself with another man; a woman yes, but not another man. But I
must admit that it would turn me on to WATCH live orgies....hey, I'm
human!
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